She's agreed to a first date. Where should you go? What should you do?

Of course, the objective of a first date is to see if there will be a second. Allow time for that, but not too much time, in case the date's a bust. And for now, focus on the present. Here are some great ideas for first-date outings:

1. Some prefer an activity. Hitting golf balls, playing miniature golf, or strolling around a large shopping mall, with its variety of activities -- restaurants, drop-in eateries, places to sit and talk or to listen to live music, or even window shopping -- will fill the time.

2. Group events will show how your date interacts with others. Picnics rank high; they're casual. If the date gets boring, go kick a soccer ball.

3. Local events such as street fairs, festivals, and concerts-in-the-park are often free and will keep you busy. County fairs teem with activities. Guys, be aware -- she may ask you to swing the hammer and ring the bell. Added plus: corn dogs and cotton candy.

4. A casual dinner in a fun, relaxed environment can be intense if the only distractions are the menu and the quality of food and service. The music must be low enough so you can hear each other. Watch how she treats the restaurant staff, and check out her table manners.

Look Nice. This doesn't mean you have to wear a suit or tuxedo, but you also can't show up wearing nice jeans and a t-shirt. Wear a nice button up shirt open with a shirt underneath. This looks much better when not tucked in, and can be done with a blazer jacket or without. Don't wear dress pants. Slap on your favorite pair of jeans, as long as they're not all ripped up or covered in dirt.
Don't wear anything with bad jokes on it. Bad jokes are definitely a big no-no but words on a t-shirt is more than fine, especially if its a unique piece/vintage/not seen in most chain stores. It makes you stand out as someone who cares about their casual clothing and isn't just a slave to fashion labels.
Mind your manners. This is a key ingredient for a successful date. No girl likes a guy who's rude and obnoxious, but don't be too formal either.
Have good table manners. Chew with your mouth closed, don't slurp your drink, don't talk with your mouth full, burp, fart, or do anything that could be perceived as disgusting. If you do this, then the date will be OVER!!!
Make a decent departure. Hug each other. Kiss her on the cheek if you want to, but don't go into deep and intimate kissing. And if she gives you her phone number, always call her within 2-3 days afterwards. When you leave a message don't say why you called but just say to call back and leave your phone number even if she has it.

A first date is any type of initial meeting between two individuals whether or not previously acquainted where an effort is made to ask, plan and organize some sort of social activity. Dating can vary between cultures, lifestyles, religion, gender, and sexual orientation. In many countries and cultures it is the process that romantic relationships are developed and future spouses are found. Often, people are set up on dates by their friends, or they meet the individual at work, a party, or in class.

Purpose of a date
The purpose of a first date is the same as the purpose of any date. Because they often set the tone for the relationship, first dates are highly important. As the study by Mary Claire Morr Serewicz of the Department of Human Communication Studies at the University of Denver, and Paul Mongeau of Arizona State University, states that first dates "represent an important early event in the development of dating relationship." For example, if a date doesn’t go according to one's standards, the couple might choose to only be platonically involved, which means having no romantic relationship. However, if the date was successful and both parties’ goals were accomplished a second date might be lined up. First dates represent potential relational turning points in an individual's life.

Components of a date

Mongeau's research shows that the term "date" can be condensed into four subcategories:

1. Dyadic: The purpose to which the date is occurring between two individuals.

2. Date cycle: Includes the major behavior components of a date.

3. Positive interaction expectancies: Implies that dates allow each other a chance to get to know one another in a comfortable environment.

4. Sexual overtones: Refers to the part of the date where romantic relationships may develop and/or include sexual attraction or expectation.

These components are the basis of a date, making up its structure and providing the involved a starting place from which to begin the dating process.

The Bar Scene is Dead. Long live the Web.
Need proof? Research shows that Americans now spend more than a billion dollars a year on Internet dating services. That's a lot of clicks, so it's no surprise that 20 percent of new couples claim to have found each other in the digital ether. Not only is the Internet setting up encounters, but it's speeding them up, too: Prescreening dating partners evidently helps guys out so much that a third of female online daters have sex on the first date.

But in spite of all this potential for romantic success, a staggering 97 percent of men give up the game after 3 months. "They quit before figuring it out," says Scott Valdez, head of Virtual Dating Assistants, a company that helps users perfect their online profiles. "So a very small percentage of men are seeing all the results." By that, of course, he means that the other 3 percent of guys are scoring all the hot dates. But here's the good news: With the right photos, profile, search parameters, and messages, you can be one of those men. Use our tips, culled from the vast troves of data at key online matchmaking sites, to turn your virtual profile into a virtual shoo-in.

Picture yourself perfectly
We like to think that women are not as shallow as we are, but that doesn't mean they're blind. "The vast majority of online daters, women included, look at profile photos to decide whether to read your message," says online dating coach Laurie Davis, founder of eFlirt Expert.

Go with your best face.
Use OkCupid's My Best Face application, which lets you upload photos for the free dating site's members to vote on. Use their input to select your top four to seven shots. "You're only as good as your worst photo," Valdez notes. That applies to picture quality, too; high-quality images outrank cellphone photos of the same people.

Make a scene.
According to OkCupid's research, the strongest photos of men are ones in which they're doing something interesting while neither smiling nor looking at the camera. And choose a noteworthy environment for your shot. "My boyfriend and I met on JDate, and his picture was taken in front of a Jackson Pollock painting I like," says Carly, 27. "That really piqued my interest."

2. Tell her some storiesDating sites are clogged with men who pile on the adjectives, likes, and dislikes. But women respond more to stories, images, and emotions. So to stand out ...

Be anecdotal. That's the advice of Kate Houston, an advertising copywriter who runs the profile-writing service trysweettalk.com. She penned this for a musician client: "When I was a boy, I picked up the trumpet and played Louis Armstrong's 'What a Wonderful World.' It made my mom cry. I was that bad. Today I play trumpet for a living." See?

Be specific. Dan Abelon, cofounder and president of SpeedDate.com, suggests hinting at your itinerary on nights out. "Write, 'On weekends I like to hang out at Crobar,' instead of 'I enjoy clubbing on the weekends,' " he says. "It's an instant icebreaker, especially if the woman shares this experience."

Be genuine. Don't kid yourself into thinking women are any less crafty than you are. "The first thing a woman does is Google you to get a fuller sense of who you are," says Eva Ritvo, M.D., a psychiatrist and relationship expert. "If your Facebook and Match.com profiles aren't consistent, she's gone." Speaking of which, women also play the profile-cooking game: A University of Chicago/MIT study found that the average female online dater says she weighs less than the average U.S. woman of the same age. The discrepancy is about 6 pounds for women in their 20s, 18 pounds for women in their 30s, and 19 pounds for women in their 40s. Women who post photos taken from odd angles or ones that focus on a single area of their body, like cleavage, tend also to be less than forthcoming about certain details, Dr. Ritvo says.

Be brief. A 2007 study in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that online daters tend to fill gaps in their own profiles with details that they think will attract their desired mate. So keep it pithy, lest you misrepresent yourself. "Your write-up should be like a woman's skirt — long enough to cover the essentials, short enough to be interesting," says Robert Epstein, Ph.D., a psychologist and creator of the compatibility test at AreWe-GoodTogether.com.

3. Game the systems
There are three big reasons to regularly switch up your photos and info. First, the various shades of your profile will appeal to different types of women. Second, an update may give you a second shot with a woman who didn't previously write back. "You might look like a totally new guy, and she'll be attracted to you," Davis says.

But the third reason to regularly refresh your profile is the most important one: It games the system. Every time you update your profile, it climbs back to the front page of female users' browsing results. "We started doing this, and our clients received four times as many 'winks,'" Valdez says. "It's like being on the top of a Google search." Making little changes may seem tedious, but attracting eyes to your profile is huge. Virtual Dating Assistants found that messages sent to women who'd simply viewed a client's profile were 78 percent more likely to draw a response.

Not exactly, but once you're hooked, your vision gets cloudy. "When you're in a relationship, you're aware of the other person's flaws, but your brain is telling you it's OK to ignore them," says Lucy Brown, Ph.D., a professor of neuroscience at the Albert Einstein College of Medicine, in New York City, who specializes in the brain's response to love. Studies at the Wellcome Department of Neuroimaging at University College in London found that when romantic partners look at each other, the part of the brain associated with social assessment and negative emotion is relatively dormant and critical judgment is dulled. According to Fisher, this mechanism may have evolved to help people stick together through early, sometimes stressful child-rearing stages.

1. Avoid giving out personal information:
The first tip in regards to safety is that you must completely avoid giving any sort of personal contact information on the dating site. Make sure that even in your conversations you do not divulge any contact details such as home or work address, telephone number etc. The Internet is also a place where you may find someone really creepy and it would not be right for him/her to have your personal information. There are also chances that the person takes to stalking. It is imperative to make sure that your profile contains only as much as information that is necessary.

2. Do not lie:
If you are on the Internet to find yourself a perfect match, it would pay to be completely honest. There are bright chances that you find the special someone in one of your searches. Therefore you should keep your profile picture and other facts of your profile as genuine as possible. Don’t claim to be someone you are not. Be honest right from the first day unless you want your image to be tainted by the tag of a liar.

3. Avoid assumptions:
Online dating has no place for assumptions. As such when the two persons talk on the net with each other the chances of miscommunication are high. While assessing your future partner do not assume anything about the other person. If you have a question, it is always a good idea to get your doubts cleared right then and there rather than assume something that is wrong. One such mistake can ruin the chance of a prospective relationship.

4. Intuitions:
When you meet new people you get some intuition about them telling you about who is good and who might be a problem. However much we are taught to ignore our gut feeling, it gives us a clear image of a person in our minds. Thus, trusting your instincts or gut feelings is one of the important steps that we should follow in order to be safe while dating online. If we feel alarm bells ringing inside our head, it would be advisable to leave the scene politely but as soon as possible.

5. Do not get into financial agreements:
Please remember that your objective to be online on a site is only to date and nothing else. Please restrict yourself from making any financial agreements over the Internet. One disadvantage of the online dating process is that it becomes very difficult for us to verify the authenticity of a person. There are chances for you to get cheated and robbed of your money.

6. Give out your cell phone number only:
Like mentioned before, you must avoid giving your home number to anyone in the dating scenario. There are possibilities of you getting stalked if your home number is for everyone to see. The home number can also be used to track your residence which gives the stalker an added benefit which would have otherwise been impossible if you had given a private cell phone number. It really would be a wise decision if you opt for giving out a cell phone number rather than using your home for contacting prospective partners.

7. Avoid giving out your opinions on sex:
This is one of the golden rules of online dating. At no given point of time should you be talking about sex. In case of online dating your opinions about sex, your sexual interests and preferences and most importantly your sexual escapades are best left to yourself. If you mention sex to someone, you might be giving them wrong ideas about yourself. The effect of this will be that when the two of you meet on a date, they might have wrong expectations from you leading to an embarrassing situation.

8. Try and do a background check:
There is no harm in doing a background check of a prospective candidate, if it is possible to do so. However, make sure your attempts are not discovered lest you come across as someone unwilling to trust. If you think that the two of you might know someone in common or may have the same social hangout spot, you can always try to find out something about him/ her. Run a check on Facebook or Twitter. Not only would it help you verify whether the person is right or not, it would also help you reassessing your judgments about him/her. This is a good way to know more about a person.

9. Do not believe everything:
Please do not believe everything that you are told online. Not everything somebody tells you will be the absolute truth and believing everything that is being said is inviting unpleasant feelings later. This is one negative aspect of online dating that seldom you will be sure about when you are being told the truth and when you are being lied to. When there is no other way to verify the truth, try not to believe everything blindly as it might cause you future disappointments.

10. Be inquisitive:
A trick that can be used to your advantage to verify whatever is being told to you is by becoming inquisitive. Try and question more often and let the questions be as innocent as possible. Also, look out for loopholes in the stories being told to you. If you ever find inconsistency in what you are being told, do not be afraid to question. If you find out that you are being lied to time and again, there might be a big question on the person’s reliability and trustworthiness.

Like a saying goes, ‘Better safe than sorry’, online dating is a setting wherein you can meet prospective singles. However, these safety rules will ensure that you do not have bad experiences in your efforts to find the right partner.

Do you know, as a single guy I have been asked many times recently by girls if I can explain basic male behavior in terms that we can all understand. Laborious chats over much wine have led to my lady friends confessing that all is not well in the world of reading what men are thinking. So the Singles Files decided to take a look. It appears that even in our advanced culture, the sexes still present the simplest misunderstandings. Men constantly appear to be a mystery when dating, and even as a man, I agree that we can be as frustrating and perplexing to the uninitiated. So it's back to basics for us today.

Millions of years of evolution haven't clouded human nature and even the most skillful women dater will have encountered male antics that defy belief. 'He acts like a Neanderthal' she may say. And do you, know, she isn't far wrong. Why? Simple, man is a hunter; that is what he was designed to do: Hunt. Which essentially means that in the world of dating the man wants to hunt you, even if you are the easiest catch on earth. Women forget this fact and ignore it at their peril. To get the man you want, you have to make them chase you and feel like they have achieved something when they eventually get to put their arm round your waist and give you a perfect kiss. If that sense of achievement is missing, your hunter will go on searching.

Okay so let's move on to the Savannah plain to explain further. How do we know what men want and like. Well all hunters want to catch the lioness, she with the thick mane and feline grace, queen of the jungle. Men will convince themselves that they could catch the lioness if they so wanted because they all like to think they are king of the jungle. But today they are too tired to do anything about it. That is exactly what happens when your hunters gather in bars together. They discuss the ones that got away and their prowess out in the field. However, you know and I know that the hunters out there are fooling themselves. They know deep down that they don't have the ability to catch the queen of the jungle, but they like to think that they might, maybe.

No, instead our intrepid hunters will seek out the slightly (but not necessarily) easier target, the more satisfying and certainly beautiful prey, the Gazelle. The gazelle you see can be found in packs out any weekend night with their Gazelle friends. Gazelles live next door, or across the street. They are beautiful creatures and fairly obtainable: But not without a fight. So the chase is on. Which of our hunters will success in capturing his gazelle this weekend? The more they hunt and chase; and the longer they are made to chase, the more rewarded they will feel when they finally succeed. And inevitably our hunter will settle down and give up hunting. But only if his Gazelle makes him feel like he has succeeded and is a true catch. Now our hunter believes he caught his Gazelle all by himself, but maybe just maybe, the Gazelle let herself be caught. Eventually.

On the down side of our make believe Savannah is the antelope. Now our hunter wants the lioness and he tries to convince himself he could capture her if he really wanted but it is too much like hard work. He really knows that he will capture his Gazelle in all reality, but when Gazelles are scarce and hard to come by, he will go for the easy target, the antelope. Down in the bar on a Friday evening there are few Gazelles about but the antelope is grazing nearby so he pounces and achieves a result straight away. There is no chase, no thrill and hardly any sense of achievement, but it staves off his hunger for now. Tomorrow the hunt will begin again.

The antelope doesn't fair too well out of this scenario but she was never going to put up too much of a chase and he was never going to be satisfied with the outcome. So at the next opportunity your hunter will be off seeking the gazelles once again, with a sly look in the direction of the lioness in a wishful thinking kind of way. And what if the hunter does finally get his gazelle, will he be satisfied? Invariably yes. The lioness is out of reach and far too scarce. The lioness may represent perfection in our hunters' Savannah plain and he may even think about what if every now and again. However if he did catch the lioness, she would probably eat him alive! But the man as hunter will be extremely happy with his sense of achievement. The antelope will always lose out because she cannot provide our hunters with what they need and desire most - chase, thrill and an implicit satisfaction with the end result.

Where it all goes badly wrong is when the lioness, gazelle and even antelope go hunting the hunter. The hunter doesn't know what to do and is not designed to cope in such situations. The hunter will be frightened and run away. So the important point to make is that allow the hunter to feel he is doing the chasing, even if secretly, he isn't. The hunter will still feel like he deserves the feeling of success and achievement even if you led him to you.

Our urban jungles are full all such creatures. Hunters are everywhere. The unbelievably attractive and desirable lioness with her Manolo Blahnicks? Our hunter lusts after her but will rarely obtain. The beautiful Gazelle next door who puts up an excellent enough chase that the hunter will eventually settle with. The dowdy antelope is simply too obtainable to present a challenge. Now do not feel demeaned by this because of course your hunter is still the Neanderthal but if you think of our world on this level it becomes easier to get inside a man's head. Men do love to chase girls and they will always fall for the one who makes them chase the longest and hardest. It's nature in full throw. They do hanker after the catwalk beauties in our society but men are not so stupid, in reality most know they have little chances of success. Only the most confident men will even bother to chase at all.

So if you want to bring your hunter into the fold, keep him chasing you girls, long after he thinks he has caught you, still keep him chasing. You maybe the lioness or the Gazelle but he will thank you for it. After all, maybe just maybe, men are the simplest of creatures to please. Whatever you do in our dating jungle, never allow yourself to be the antelope.

Watch your step girls; it certainly is still a jungle out there.

Like everything in life, some games we play have winners and losers. I wish dating wasn't a game but it is governed by a complex chemical mixture of body chemistry and environmental conditioning. This means that there are subtle rules and undertones to everything we do and perceive when we meet someone for the first time. Because of this we will not succeed with everyone we meet. If identical twins both have a girlfriend and you swap the twins, research indicates that the girlfriends will know instantly that they are not with the right partner. So something is going on that limits our success with prospective partners.

This should give us some comfort but it doesn't. The fact is, dating is a hard business and it can wear us down. I am 37 years old, never married, and there are days when I am tired of dating to be honest. Like many single people I try all the techniques and lessons and follow all the rules and for some reason I just don't seem to meet the right person for me. Maybe I am guilty like many  in becoming increasingly choosey and increasingly intolerant but I don't think that is it actually. I think that what is happening is that we all go through peaks and troughs in our dating lives and this is what I want to talk about now.

We must be prepared to take things on the chin occasionally and be prepared for runs of bad luck when we kind of despair that will will meet our Mr. Right. This is when our confidence, ambition, the regular nature of our lives and our eternal optimism will shine through. This is also why we often meet people when we are slightly off our guard. But this is also why we have standards and criteria. If dating and matching was so easy we would meet our perfect person within days of looking and oddly this would lead us to feel discontent later because of the wondering about who else who could have met. No, dating is a long slow process which may wear us down but which at the end of the day makes us especially sure when we DO meet the right person.

I find that I meet lots of nice people who appeal to be willing partners but there is some form of spark missing, something indefinable that I can't put my finger on. The result of this is to make me start questioning myself. I think well I have just met some great people lately and there was nothing wrong with any of them but yet I don't want to date them, maybe there is something wrong with me? And then I take a break from the dating scene for a bit, convincing myself all the while that I am better off being single.

The truth is that most of us do end up in long term relationships but we are starting to loose patience. Like everything else in our consumer lives, we want to go and buy our lifestyle from a store. We don't like waiting for things and the idea of waiting indefinitely to meet someone we can picture so clearly in our heads can drive us crazy. I find myself feeling resentful occasionally. Like for example a trip out on a sunny Sunday afternoon will mean that I encounter lots of couples. They are there, living proof that the vast majority of people can meet people. In fact a lot of couples I see appear to have my perfect dates amongst them so why me? Why is it that I am single and so many people are not.

Well for a start it is an illusion. We don't know how these people are feeling, we don't know about their problems and most often we are witnessing a concentration of couples in a place where coupes go, like parks and on walks. Its exactly where we would be too with our partners. So we need to keep things in perspective. Yes there are lots of couples, but there are a hell of a lot of single people who don't happen to be strolling in the park.

Dating is hard because we are reminded about our singledom by the media. The papers have lots of lifestyle pages these days showing loving couples. Home and interior magazines are full of happy couples selecting furnishings for their new family home. There appear to be more happy parents with buggies then ever before, so much so that venturing out is like venturing into the middle of a mini chariot race. So why not us?

We go on successive dates and we feel almost always let down. Out heart is raised and then it sinks half way through dinner, if not within minutes, because yet again we know instinctively that this date is going nowhere fast. We don't know why, we just know okay. Then the worst of all is when we see the person we can only dream of, maybe we even meet them, but they are happily attached. Our friends shock us out of the blue by announcing they are getting engaged and another of our inner social circle drops out of sight. This is true - I had three best friends and two of them announced one innocent evening in our local bar that they both had pregnant girlfriends and both were moving away. They announced this independently of each other but within 90 seconds.

I think as single people there is a growing resentment that we are the victims of some crime, that life is being unfair to us. Even the poorest of people in the most remote of countries appear to find love so easily yet we struggle. Surely it can't be so hard to find someone who is all the simple things we ask for. Someone who will love us like we love them. And that's part of it - the amount of love we have built up inside but which we have no one to share it with. Its like being a pent up firework that may never have the chance to explode in glorious colors. This leads to a feeling of desperation. What is to be done?

What we do is we stick to our guns and we carry on. We keep dating and we keep meeting people and we concentrate on enjoying our lives. We prepare for days such as this when we don't feel optimistic and we become experts in dating and relating. Furthermore we become experts about ourselves. We take a good look at out live and we see if there is anything we need to fix. Beyond that we stop worrying so much about being single and being left on the shelf.

The great irony of feeling down when dating and appreciating that dating is hard, is the fact that being in a relationship is even harder and as many of your married friends may tell you, not every day is sunny. However I think all us single folk agree that we would trade that for the thought of being on our own for years to come. Strange really.

Human beings are blessed with divine knowledge. Human beings well and truly know to put knowledge with experimentation and utilize their resources to the maximum. They are the species on the earth who get the maximum pleasure of sex. They are gifted to communicate through words. They can do experiments. They can also seek the help of science and technology to make their sex more pleasurable. Education and expression have made sex an impeccable and divine experience in human beings. Sex without proper knowledge is equal to that between any other species. So a human being must be aware of the pros and cons of the kind of sex he or she has been involved in. They have to explore the better uses of the sensory organs they have been gifted with.
To enjoy a better sex, one has to decide the priorities. These are all called ‘pre-intercourse activities’. One following all of this type will get heavenly pleasure during sex.

First priority: Sex is a mutual act. If any of them is tired or not in a mood, the act is just futile for both or less enjoyable for the active one.

Second priority: Sex is a game of love. That’s why it is called love making. So during sex, remember that you are showering your love on your partner, and not just doing it for your physical or psychological pleasure.

Third priority: Foreplay is a must for any sexual act. It stimulates both the partners and makes them reach orgasm enjoying the act to its highest possible extent.

Fourth priority: Try out different positions. It will give you an experimental touch.

Fifth priority: Try out different timings and different locations as well. This even gives you enough space for experimenting with your positions.

Sixth priority: Don’t put yourself under stress or anxiety. In males, sometimes it happens that they don’t get erection as a consequence of the same.

Seventh priority: For men who have already experienced of not getting an erection sometime before or suffering from Erectile Dysfunction, it is suggestible that they should keep medications like generic Viagra, generic Cialis, generic Levitra, Kamagra, etc. with them and use them prior to the sexual interaction as per the doctor’s suggestion. These drugs give you a stiff erection for a good amount of time and also get you extra energy.
About the Author :-Robert Smith is an associated editor to the website pharmaexpressrx.com

A few weeks ago, I wrote about how some confused signals led to an awkward confrontation with a young lady who had been a somewhat regular player in my recent social life—she wasn't part of the main cast, but she was a recurring guest star, and I was more than willing to consider extending her contract. But she wanted to explore other opportunities. I've been thinking about how, without turning into a character from , I can be clear about my intentions. With this in mind, I've prepared the following document, which I plan to present to future prospective dates before any time and effort is wasted on extended trips to Friendtown.

I hereby invite the undersigned ___________________ (hereby known as "My Date" "Her" "She" or "Boo" if things start to go super-well), to accompany me to dinner on ___________________.

If a dinner invitation is accepted, the undersigned should be aware that this invitation constitutes a date. Said date was not offered because John thought She looked malnourished, or he thought She could really use someone to talk to over soup that costs $17. He wanted to spend time with Her, alone, get to know Her and perhaps kiss Her (though, by signing the above, She is by no means committing to any kissing, of the French or any other variety, be it "goodnight," "butterfly," "tummy," or some super-cool kind John does not even know about yet).

As the invited party of said date, She will be entitled to the following:

A. A time and place of Her choosing. Should She not finish work until 8 P.M., She will not be asked to join John for cocktails and pizza at 6 P.M., because John is aware that bosses rarely tolerate inebriated employees. He is also aware that pizza is highly coveted in office settings and does not want to cause envy in an environment where everyone is already jealous of Her, especially Rebecca in accounts receivable, who pretends to be nice but is really a total back-stabber.

B. Girl is within her rights to have location, type of food, length of date, or topic of film or play, decided by John. John should be made aware of any allergies or dislikes, be they "seafood," "carbs," or "Thai food," or "anything involving certain celebrities." This said, it is up to John to choose a location and activity that is generally appealing and convenient.

C. To be met near the subway, at a place of Her choosing, or to be picked up and taken to the location previously chosen as ideal for the consumption of food, the delivery of compliments and the occasional leg or arm touch (to gauge interest).

Furthermore, as part of the date experience, She may expect the following from John:

A. He will keep conversation to a polite level of engagement and interest. He will not unload his troubles or mention other girls. He will attempt to be funny, though there are no guarantees. Girl should feel free to attempt to be funny as well, though merely laughing at what John has to say is acceptable for a first time out.

B. He will keep all physical contact to an appropriate minimum. Should She find John physically irresistible and green-light him for further physical contact, She should know that John doesn't usually sleep with women on the first date, and that this is no reflection on Her attractiveness, what she ordered for dinner or the cleanliness of her living space.

C. He will pay for any and all expenses, including but not limited to food and drinks, cabs, subway (though, he really should be taking Her in a cab), groceries purchased on the way back to Her place and any furniture or fixtures damaged by his visit to Her apartment should he be invited there.

After pre-approved dating activity has been completed, She may choose to extend said date, at which point it will be John's prerogative to offer several options for fun and intimate activities. If none of these activities sound appealing, Girl should feel free to offer some of Her own, or stop being such a Negative Nelly and get on board.

A goodnight kiss is highly encouraged. If a great time was had and another date is desired, a kiss on the lips is strongly recommended.

If date will not be following up with calls, texts or further meetings, a polite reception of a peck on the cheek will do fine.

Whether She wishes to include the level of enjoyment experienced on the date in a subsequent text message will be up to Her. Thought-provoking and witty texts will be especially valued.